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Saturday, December 15, 2012

WHAT'S The ANSWER?

WHAT'S The ANSWER?

Ooooooooohhh my goodness....where do you start with a blog or story that tries to be uplifting and informative after a day like we had yesterday? 
Billy had run a quick errand and I was zipping through the living room doing some dusting and vacuuming and filling the fireplace corner...and I looked up and saw breaking news on the TV...
Now I don't watch much daytime tv on any given normal day...and often turn it off when Billy heads to the workshop....but if I DO leave it on...I generally turn to CNN ..JUST IN CASE....there's BREAKING NEWS...so that's what I had done yesterday.......SO when I saw that something was going on....I turned off the vacuum to find that there had been another school shooting in Connecticut....."Oh geeeeeeeeeeeeeeezzz I thought to myself...NOT aGAIN!"  But they were saying....other schools were on lock down and some of these kids had been rushed to a nearby fire station and things were still frantic...but it 'sounded like' it was just going to be another random shooting that we'd hear about for a few days and then...like most of the others....it would just kind of fade into all the other horrific stories that seem to be accumulating in our minds... like guppies in a small fish tank....

But as the story progressed....it just got worse and worse....Billy soon returned...and I found a stopping place and set down with a project that I needed to do....that I could do as we watched the unfolding story....And I'm telling you the truth....we sat and watched the news ALL DAY LONG and right on into the evening.....

We live just about a 20 minute drive from the shooting back in the late 90's I believe it was....at Heath High School...in Paducah, Ky.....and my mind kept going back to that day....And I remember how horrific that shooting was and news media was here from all over the country on THAT day......That shooter was Michael Carneal....and I remember hearing the stories of Michael and what he had been like before the shooting...and what a troubled young boy he was and how no one had seemed to really think anything OF it...that he was withdrawn and unable to connect with kids his own age...and I actually told Billy during THAT time....that I felt SO SO sorry for Michael....and I WOULD HAVE....even if I had been a parent of one of the kids that were shot....And I said, "I'd give anything if I could go to that jail and just talk to Michael"....Not sure what I would have SAID...but I just felt like no one had ever listened to him and possibly that alone...had warped his mind.....AND his parents were well known professional people.....so why didn't THEY notice and do something....?

It's really getting to where it isn't safe anywhere.....you know it?   We go to a small country church..in a very small town...but if we hear the door squeak....we ALL turn around to see who's coming or going.....I had jury duty just a while back and was there almost a week...or maybe I WAS there a whole week...but even if the lawyer was questioning someone and the door to the court room would squeak...HE would turn around and look..just like WE all did.....We're rapidly getting to be a society where we're just not safe ANYWHERE ....AND WE ALL KNOW IT!!!

Back in the 1970's....we were on vacation in Florida....Now back in the 1970's...it was a very VERY rare thing....to hear of this kind of thing...OR even a random shooting......But we had supper one night at the Pizza Hut just across the street from our motel in Daytona Beach....and on the late nightly news that very night....we heard a report that someone had gone in the Pizza Hut...in I BELIEVE...Fort Lauderdale...and shot several of the customers......just on a whim....no connection TO these people...The gunman just walked in the door and started shooting....and they said customers were scrambling to get under tables and out of the line of fire.......And FROM THAT MOMENT ON...I have never felt really safe anywhere....AND even to this day....when we go out to eat...Billy has to set where he can see the doors....

NOW about gun control....I AM NOT for these laws that are passing that say we can ALL carry a gun in our pockets and our handbags or our glove compartments of our vehicles OR anywhere else....."I" believe that the majority of these people packing guns and shooting up the country....are established shooters (so to speak) and almost professional....shooters....I don't think they get on the internet to review guns and then just go buy one and decide when and where they're going to use it....I believe they get to know that gun like a very personal friend AND they know how to use it and how to pinpoint their targets......It just isn't the same for Uncle Fred and Aunt Mildred.....or Granny Goose or Grandpa Geezer....to pack a gun when we go to Walmart or out to supper.... so that IF WE FOUND OURSELVES IN a very dire situation....we could sharp shoot the shooter and be hero's on the NBC Nightly News....

NO ONE needs to be carrying these guns that will shoot off 20 or 50 or 100 rounds while they're eating an apple with the other hand....HOW ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!  NO ONE needs to be carrying guns PERIOD....unless they work in law enforcement or in some capacity that requires it.....

The kids we saw telling their stories on the news yesterday.....were amazing kids though....VERY bright and alert for their ages....You COULD absolutely tell....this was a storybook town ...full of storybook families and storybook lives...with very well behaved and intelligent kids.....

It's just such a sad....so SO sad...situation......And we've heard THIS shooter was also a troubled child...and couldn't connect with kids his own age or others....and that his mom was domineering....Everybody is trying to analyze the situation and try to figure out what in the world happened......"I" feel...the boy has had emotional problems from a very early age.....those emotional problems were not seen too....his problems mounted ...right along with his anger.....His mom taught school and while he felt she didn't have time for HIM....she loved teaching and had plenty of time for her students....possibly even talked of them at home....making his anger build and build until he just exploded.....NOW...is this a 'normal reaction'?  ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!  But often times...young people can't sort things out like they should be able to...and they can't put things in perspective in a way that would help them cope....and when they possibly try or try to get someone or anyone to listen....and they're just met with ridicule and reprimanding....instead of possibly finding a healing...their hurt and anger gets deeper and deeper....until they explode....

The picture they showed of this shooter from 2005....LOOKS like that of a troubled young boy......You can see it in his face and his eyes......

REGARDLESS of the question.....The answer.....is LOVE!

Peace and love from the canyon......I love you all gobs...and thanks so much for stopping by....this has been a bird's eye view of the katydid...until next time....you are loved....