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Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Women's Safety: How To Avoid Being Abducted

Wouldn't it be nice if all the world was a fairytale playground and all the people in it would play nice together?  I'd like to live in a world that was a warm and fuzzy...grand and groovy...zippity doo dah LaLa Land world 24/7...wouldn't that be nice? 
And wouldn't it be nice if the only stories we had to blog about were warm and fuzzy stories...stories about how to live a charmed life and how to fall in love and stay in love for ever after...and how to keep our homes neat and tidy and how to cook the very best comfort foods? 

But unfortunately..we have to take a whole lot of bad...with the good we can find or manage to make in this old world around us.

I've said so many times that I don't watch the nightly news and sometimes people are appalled when I say that.  But listen..."I" can't HELP the people in all of the foreign lands of this world OR all the governmental problems in our country and there isn't a person out there with any authority..that's going to listen to ME...So why burden myself with these sad stories and hang a cloud over my own La La Land.  Those of you that really know me..KNOW that if I COULD help these folks..I matter where they are...BUT I CAN'T..all I can do is pray for them...and I do..

MY MAIN CONCERN public health and safety right here in my own little world and that includes of all of you..Now THAT'S where "I" will jump on the bandwagon and try to leave my mark...There's an epidemic of home invasions and kidnappings/abductions these days and it's our responsibility...yours and do everything within our help that situation in any way we can.

I've just read a SUPER article and I'm going to post the whole article at the bottom of this blog.  Several kidnappers/rapist were interviewed in prison and asked what are the main things they look picking out a victim to kidnap/rape.  And their answers were just unbelievable...but knowing what they look for will hopefully help us avoid being a victim....

Kim and I had to make a trip to Memphis when she was in her late teens...It was just a quick trip right down there and back in one day...But it was a "have to" case....Kev was stranded down there and dad was he mapped us out our route and off we went.  We were on the outskirts of Memphis going down there and it's about a 4 hour trip one way for us and we were both needing the rest room and about to pop...  So we pulled into this rest area to check out the rest room.  It was the most deserted rest area I have ever seen in my life...but standing right at the end of the restroom building was the shadiest character you ever met...AND there was no car in sight. 
We set there a minute talking about this man and desperately needing to go INto that restroom...but I said to Kim, "We just can't take the chance...I can see us ending up on the nightly news..we're getting out of here..he may not be alone"  So we left....SOMEthing just wasn't right about that picture and we knew it...

And I've told the story about the trip Billy and I took to Florida on the Valkyrie in May of 2004....We had been in Florida about a week and had headed home and came through Alabama.  We decided to stop early for the night and checked into our motel room, went to supper and stopped in at a big grocery right in the area of our motel and where we had had supper...When we got off the Valkyrie to go in the grocery...a man came over to admire Billy's Valkyrie and they talked and talked and finally I tugged on Billy's arm and said, "I'm going to go get us some snacks to take to the room...I'll be right back..."  Billy had parked fairly close to the front door of the grocery and he said "Ok"...I went in and went right to the aisle with snacks and was looking and noticed a big dark skinned man to my left...he seemed to be looking at the snacks too...but wasn't picking up anything like "I" was..I picked up some cookies....and I went over to the drink aisle to get a big Coca Cola for us to split and here was this big tall muscular man again...still nothing in his hands and he was now looking at the soft drinks....I got the Cola and headed for the check out and as I was paying I happened to glance up and saw him standing...empty handed...just down from the end of my check out aisle and slightly towards the if he was waiting on someone....
Well I may be a dingbat...but I'm not stupid! I immediately thought....that big old guy IS waiting on someone and he's waiting on ME to go to my car....So I passed him shaking like a leaf and he came right behind soon as I was out the door...I broke and ran for Billy....yelling to him as I ran....the man turned and hurried in the other direction and left.   There is not a doubt in my mind...that he was up to no good...and we SHOULD have gotten his license plate number and called the police....SHOULD HAVE'S ... if done at the right time...WOULD HAVE...saved a lot of people...and I will always regret that. 

Billy is very protective of me when we're out and about...and it isn't that I'm a raving beauty...heavenly day NOOOOOOOOOOO....It's because I'm 5 feet tall and weigh about 130 pounds soaking wet and it would be fairly easy for someone to grab me and throw me in a trunk....hahahahaha 

Many of you will remember reading the story of me going to the ladies room at the races in Springfield last year and Billy coming to check on me.  Kim called and I couldn't hear her in the grandstand so I said to Billy "I'm going to the restroom.. I can't hear Kim over the noise...I'll be right back" And in about 5 minutes....Billy was standing outside the ladies room and had a woman from the concession stand in there checking to see if I was ok.....hahahahaha   WHAT a GEEZER I've got....Love that rascal to PIECES!  Now many husbands would let 2 hours go buy...thinking Old Gertrude has just got tied up looking at t-shirts in the concession stand area....but Billy knows he has taught me to be a Point A to Point B person....and he keeps a close eye.

We've seen documentaries that tell women never to park beside a van in a grocery or mall parking lot...and how some times an abductor will approach you asking for directions or some other question..just to get close so they can grab you...We just can't BE too careful these days....TRUST NO ONE BUT YOUR MOTHER AND SPOUSE !!!!!!!!!!  hahahahaha

I'm going too long here...and I still have this article I hope you will this is it for today....I hope you will read it and share it with your own friends.....Abductions are getting to be an epidemic BIG TIME....DO NOT WALK OR JOG on lonely roads or in parks...goodness gracious...that is ASKING for may as well be wearing a sign that says "HERE I AM...I thought I'd be nice and save you some I came to YOU"

Through a rapist's eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.


1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now that you've seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, and go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.


I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go "hmm I must remember that" After reading, forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in
this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans: if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit
(doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS, LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side, peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. (DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB).

b. If you! U are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard /policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers,
wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it's better safe than sorry.

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