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Monday, February 4, 2013

From A Story Book Romance To Divorce Court



Remember the days of real romantic movies, with Doris Day and Rock Hudson and Sandra Dee and John Gavin and Annette and Frankie?  Aaaahhh those were the days, weren't they?  Most of THOSE old movies were written by our baby boomer generation and if there was one thing our generation knew...it was true love and real romance.  We knew how to find our true loves and reel them in and then strengthen the tie that binds.  None of this "till something better comes along" garbage was good enough for most of us baby boomers...we were looking for and working towards "And they lived happily ever after"

I remember when Billy and I were dating how we would leave notes for each other on our car steering wheels at each other’s work places and we'd surprise each other with little gifts often.  But back then, couples just worked and lived with a different thought process.  We didn't give cars and diamonds and $500 phones that could zoom in on the President in the Oval office.  Our generation was more into just plain and simple 'love notes' written on a wrinkled piece of paper with a #2 pencil and those notes were just simple notes often times just saying "I love you..See you tonight!"..Because back in OUR day...that's what was important, just plain old "love" and making it last forever after.

What's HAPPENED to real love and "and they lived happily ever after"?  Could it be television?  Is TELEVISION what has changed the course of our lives and the way we live?  If so, it wasn't worth it, let me tell ya that for a dog GONE fact!

Billy had a really old movie on over the weekend and the couple was setting and talking and I was doing some work Kim had laid out for me on the computer and I wasn't paying that much attention, but I DID NOTICE that the woman in the movie was talking and Clark Gable or whoever it was ...was all curled up next to her in front of a fireplace and looking her dead in the eyes and listening intently to each and every word and then actually COMMENTING on what she was saying and I'll be switched he didn't have a clicker in one hand and a newspaper in the other one or ANYTHING....he was just giving all of his time and attention to this WOMAN...as they were all curled up talking about their plans for the future...And I just said to Billy "That is SO SO SO romantic...what ever happened to couples actually talking and listening to each other"  And my old geezer said, "WHAT?"  hahahahahahaha  I just mumbled under my breath, "Never mind... I know they get OLD..." hahahahaha

And why is it that these men will take this pill and I'm not going to mention the pill...because I don't want off color things to pop up on my blog...but they'll take this pill and get all spiffied up and acting frisky ..for the OTHER woman they're wanting to attract the attention of...but they won't spend that time and attention on the woman they promised a hundred years ago to love and adore forever after...
I believe love should grow better as time goes on...and it does grow stronger and deeper, I think...but we should never EVER let that spark die away...And we have to actually work at keeping it going. 

If these husbands and wives of these failing marriages would just put the time and attention into the spouses they stood at the altar with a hundred years ago...that they're willing to put into a NEW romance with another person...my GOODNESS GRACIOUS...the marriages that could be saved and go on to make storybook endings...

But we can't DO that and do you know WHY?  Because somewhere down that long road behind us one or the other of us said something the other didn't like and made the other half of the couple angry and they didn't talk and communicate about it so they have stewed all these years over some piddly something that they are going to realize...on that persons death bed...that is was NOTHING, really...it really didn't even amount to a hill of beans...So they just keep letting that anger brew over the years and they get more and more distant...and before you know it...they're living in the same house and they go days without barely saying a word to each other....

Let me tell ya what it's been like in OUR home this last week and a half with me flat on my back for about 4 days....Billy set right in his chair...not 3 feet from me and he was asking me every hour "Do we need to go to the ER?"  "Is there anything I can get or do for you?"  Several times he set right beside me on the love seat and massaged my back and tried to do his OWN chiropractic magic to get my KINK out...because to be honest...for a couple of days there...I was so bad...It would have taken an ambulance crew to get me to the hospital or the chiropractor...Billy could barely help me up to get to the bathroom...and I'm not talking about being a whiner and making a big deal about a little back pain...I'm talking about pain that was so bad...tears would freely come and I couldn't stop them..just trying to get to the bathroom and back on the love seat...But there he sat...MY big old Grizzly Adams..who has to be working at LEAST 6 or 8 hours a day...to be really content...but he was within an arms reach of me...non stop....for several days....

When you get out and about to start your day today...just keep telling yourself...over and over again.."LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT...IT ALWAYS HAS BEEN...AND IT ALWAYS WILL BE"  Don't be afraid to be the first to pamper that person living under that roof with you that you rarely ever talk to...Don't let yourself feel awkward about leaving a sweet note.....or a stick or leaf because you know they like things from nature..like MY geezer does :-)  ALL YOU NEED TO BE TELLING YOURSELF IS..."Hey I used to WORSHIP this person...now WHAT in the dickens HAPPENED here?  AND THEN tell yourself "whatever it was...let's see if I can't turn this situation around and have the ending we thought we were going to have...a hundred years ago."   WHY spend all your time and attention on a new love...when THAT love is going to get old and stale TOO if you don't WORK at it....

One of the comments I get once in a while that really makes me laugh...is..."I love reading your blog...you are wise beyond your years"  hahaha But HEY FOLKS!!!  I"M 66 YEARS OLD!!! I'm no spring CHICKEN...I've seen a LOT and HEARD even MORE..even in my sheltered life...and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see a pile of salt and pepper and know one is kinda black and one is white.  You just have to be willing to SEE what's really THERE..instead of what you WANT to see...

My story absolutely started out..."Once upon a time there was a fair and bashful princess who met her prince charming...........AND I ABSOLUTELY WANT IT TO END WITH...."And they lived happily ever after"

YOU are living YOUR story....make it a masterpiece!!!

Ok...today is be kind to your mailman day....SO...let's all leave something nice for our mailman...I think I'll make a batch of homemade rolls and put them in our mailbox when it's about time for Mike to come by...I hope you'll do something for your mailman too...Even just a note saying you appreciate them bringing your mail in all kinds of weather....

Peace and love from the canyon...I love you all gobs and thanks SO SO much for stopping by...This has been a bird's eye view of the katydid and until next time...you are loved....






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