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Tuesday, March 12, 2013

When IS IT Ok To Betray A Confidence? HELP???

WHAT a reVOLtin' deVELOPEment THIS is!   WHY do people conFIDE in me?  Now listen, you guys out there in blog reader land...YOU can tell me ANYTHING...REALLY.  Because "I" don't know YOU and YOU don't know ME..and I get so many emails that by the time I get to the end of them each day...I can't remember who said WHAT...But that's ok because I've answered each one as I came to it and then just let it go...said a prayer if I felt the need and moved on to the next one...So don't ever hesitate to email if you need or want to...about health...foo fooing your homes...your relationship problems..I don't want to hear any dirty little stories...but I'm always willing to give you my honest opinion...when I can.

But for some reason people have a tendency to confide in me...AND I think I said just a week or so ago that I've only betrayed one confidence in my life that I can recall...and that was a have to case...just recently.  But NOW I've been confided in again...and I wasn't told NOT to repeat it...but I'm really struggling with whether to or not..right now...AND who to tell if "I" feel I have to confide in someone ELSE...And I'm really feeling that strong need right now...  :-0  Ooooooooooooooohhh geeeeeeeeezzz

I've been at Weaver Creek...sitting right on that piano stool for 43 years now...and we've had a lot of preachers come and go...some didn't go FAST enough...hahaha   But they eventually left...And then others...I wish they had stayed longer...
But I guess I heard one of the best messages come out of that pulpit this past Sunday .. that I've ever heard...and it was a short/simple message...about bullying and backstabbing and gossiping and this and that...and what kind of a person we really ARE when no one is looking...

Bro Shawn was still under the weather and Bro Chris filled in for him...And he only talked about 15 minutes and then at the end...he said "I know Bro Shawn usually preaches for about 30 minutes..but this is what the Lord laid on my heart this morning...so I'm going to wrap it up"  And I was sitting in my pew...about to SHOUT ...which is very rare for me...beCAUSE of the great message he had just brought...
So after the invitation and right before we closed in prayer...I just said, "Chris...I just want to say something...THAT was one of the best messages I have ever heard come out of that pulpit...and it doesn't MATTER that it didn't last 30 minutes...we have some preachers in our pulpits around the country and they're so arrogant...we can't concentrate on their message for their arrogance...and why talk for 30 minutes and lose half your congregation before you're done...when you can pack a whallop like that in 15 minutes"   And people were nodding their heads all over the congregation...I said, "That was an absolutely fanTASTIC message and it's such a shame that more didn't get to hear it"... I went ON to say that he stepped all OVER "MY OWN" toes...because I'm as bad as anybody about being too blunt and out spoken...but that's what we're THERE for...to have our eyes opened to some of the wrong's we're doing.....

I've always thought Sunday School should be for studying scripture...and maybe even Wednesday nights...But I feel that Sunday morning and Sunday evening...when you're getting your biggest draw of people in your pews....You should be talking about how to live and love and get thru this old life...being the best you can BE...Now a preacher can connect that to scripture...and absolutely SHOULD....
But MANY people when they're going to visit a church for the first time...will GO on a Sunday morning...so if they've never or rarely BEEN and they're hearing all about Hezekiah and Nebuchadnezzar and Zacharias and they're sitting there with their heads spinning wondering "WHO in the world ARE these people with these crazy names and WHY do people take a whole HOUR out of their WEEK to sit and LISTEN to this"  :-)  And they walk away thinking..."Ok I'd been feeling like I need to get in church...but it must have been my imagination...because I got NOTHIN' outta THAT"
But if they go in and sit down in a pew and the song service is lively and it lifts you till you feel like you're having to hold yourself in your pew...and then a couple of people do special songs and you get a kind of chill and you have to fight to hold back tears...and then the preacher gets up and he passes out these little brown lunch bags and they have the tops rolled down and he says "If you had a really bad week LAST week...there IS an ANSWER to a REALLY good week NEXT week...and the answer is in your bags....so open them now and take a look"  And everybody opens their bags and takes out a little hand mirror and when they look in that mirror...they SEE the answer to a good week 'next week'...and they see THEMSELVES in those mirrors...and then the preacher says "YOU are responsibile for YOUR life...and you can make it GOOD or you can make it BAD" And then he goes on to talk about it....THAT is Bro Shawn....and should be any other pastor that wants to have life changing services...

I have a really good friend that have been having some really bad problems in her marriage...so she finally said she'd have her family at church the next Sunday....And I didn't say a word to Bro Shawn...about them or that they were coming...but when he got up and opened his mouth to begin...I COULD NOT BELIEVE the words that came out of his mouth...he pretty much SAID "IF your life or your marriages are falling apart...I'm going to have the answer for you toDAY"  And he preached one of his best messages that day I've ever heard....SOOOOOOOOOO that was nothing in this world..but the Lord..working through Bro Shawn...to reach this couple and anyone else that needed that message....

But HEY WAIT!!!  Did I get off TRACK HERE?  I THINK I DID!!! 

I have had someone confide in me...and this TOO needs to be told to someone..it absolutely is NOT your average 'confidence story'...SOOOOOO ..WHAT TO DO....WHAAAAATTT to DOOOOOOOOOOOOOO???   OH I hate being put in the middle of things like this.....But I'm so SO glad I KNOW..SOMEone needs to know this......And if I hadn't betrayed that last confidence...I would be much quicker to go to my pastor or someone and say "Hey...I've been told something and I can't carry this alone....can I tell YOU?"  :-)   But goodness....I think I'd feel like a real blabber mouth THIS time....and this morning I'm just so worried ... because this has just been confided in me with a very early morning phone call this morning...and it has nothing to do with family...and it wasn't family that called me...
Now the OTHER confidence I betrayed just absolutely HAD to be told...so I'm ok with that..it was one of those things where I didn't question whether I should talk to someone...But this time...I don't know WHAT to do...I keep thinking..."Let the Lord handle it"...so I'm praying for an answer...

I don't know WHY people tell me things.....OR I can be in a store and 2 or 3 people will ask me for help finding something...or ABOUT a product...Like I'm wearing a sign that says "I may look like a dingbat with sharon hair...but I know EVERYTHING"   hahahahaha  
During aNOTHER cowboy movie the other night...I had one of my natural healing books out and I was studying a chapter on what our faces and hands and different features say about us....Like did you know that a line or two in the lobe of your ear means you could be having heart issues?  :-/  Now I've known that for decades and even Dr Patel confirmed that for me...and he's a cardiologists.  There are SO many things like that....But I was studying these feature 'signs' and it was talking about noses and it said a pug or button nose was a sign a person is caring and helpful and trustworthy....well I've GOT a button nose...but how many people in WALMART ....KNOW what that MEANS....hahahahaha  "I" didn't know that until last WEEK..and I've been studying this stuff for about 37 years....hahaha

Usually when I have a decision to make and can't decide... I just say to myself "What would Jesus Do?"  And that helps SO SO much....but on this....when I think "What would Jesus do?"  I think Jesus would say "Hey...me and dad have it covered...forget it"  Do Ya THINK?  :-/  I hoooooooooooooope sooooooo...
Ooooooooooooohhh meeeeeee....Lord PLEASE help me to do the right thing..or know whether to do nothing...shall we pray

Monica Reese...a new reader...would you please email me at katydid1@hughes.net    and this has nothing to do with todays blog....hahahahaha

Okkkkkkkk I'm going to get off....tons to do today.....Peace and love from the Canyon and this has been a bird's eye view of the katydid and until next time....you are loved....

WHEN is it GOSSIP?  And WHEN is it just trying to figure out a solution and/or trying to help?



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